If you’re concerned about joint pain during sex, these ideas can help: Some positions -- like lying side by side with your partner -- can take the stress off your hips or other affected joints. You can also plan intimacy for the times of day when you usually feel less pain.
Menopause and pain can affect your desire. Your partner may also be afraid that they’ll cause you pain. It can help if both of you talk together with a doctor or counselor.